How to Save a Marriage?

 The Bond of Marriage

The bond of marriage consists of the following:

• Moral bond - The wedding vows indelibly written into history.  A sacred promise.
• Personal bond - The integrity and spirituality of those giving the vows.
• Spiritual bond - Accountability to a just and all-knowing God who can see the vows and whether they are honored.
• Social bond - the integrity and courage of family, church, and friends to defend the marriage for the general benevolence.
• Legal bond - the integrity and courage of the government to make and enforce laws consistent with common decency of marriage.

Society - Circle of Friends, Family, Church

The failure of a marriage is a serious testimony against the society of the unfaithful because unless the unfaithful is incorrigible, it only takes one or two people to speak a word of truth in love to stop a divorce but it takes several excuse makers to shore up a lie that destroys a marriage.  It requires a major war against the conscience to destroy a family.

Nation - Government

The failure of a marriage is a serious testimony against the government of the nation in which that divorce takes place. It speaks of a nation inept in protecting the welfare of its faithful and its children.  It speaks of a nation that lacks justice and courage and integrity.

Judicial System - Family Court System

Divorce speaks of a judicial system that can destroy the families of little children for money, abuse the faithful spouses, and hold their children ransom using them for extortion in the name of justice and bully everyone in to silence with threats.

It speaks of judges and attorneys that pimp for the wayward spouse, encourage divorce, ruin marriage, and ruin society.

Indifference Destroys Marriages

High divorce rates testify of the apathy, indifference, and cowardice of the people in that society.

For years, items of clothing were available on this web site.  And, while 400 people per month come to this site on average, only perhaps three or four people ever bought any of these items of clothing to make a statement.

Families are breaking up. Children are growing up in broken homes, and out of 400 people who come to this web site every day, many who are suffering the loss of their own families, zero usually buy one of these shirts or buttons.

Don’t fire back an excuse unless you want to defend it before God on judgment day and before all those families that could have been saved had you done something at all.  If this makes you angry with me and you wish to give elsewhere, please do, but give somewhere.

The Moral Bond of Marriage is Already Saved

Can a divorce make the vows unsaid?  Unless there is a reason that keeping the vows would be sinful, to continue to live in violation of those vows is a sin.  The marriage stands.

Some divorce and remarry thinking that doing so will break the moral obligation to honor the vows of the first marriage. But according to Jesus in Matthew 19:9, except for cause of unfaithfulness to divorce and remarry is adultery.

There are no dances, no rituals, no ceremonies, no rites, no subsequent agreements that can make the earlier vows unsaid. A subsequent marriage cannot make the first vows unsaid or unbinding.  In truth, there was never any legitimate right to enter into that second marriage. It is invalid.

The only question before God and heaven is will we honor those vows? Will we as a society of family and friends honor those vows and defend them or assault them? Would we send a friend to hell in sin for the sake of keeping that friendship? If so, perhaps our place in eternity will be there with them in hell giving an answer for our lack of commitment and courage to help keep them out of hell and away from a broken marriage.

The Personal Bond

The personal bond will never break for the person of integrity and character.  The vows were given and the vows will be kept.

The Spiritual Bond

The person who remains close and faithful to God will never violate the wedding covenant.  To do so would be anathema. The spiritual person will see this as nailing Christ to the cross again. And, even if the spiritual person were to fail and fall into sin, there would be great, deep repentance and grief and turning around and never a continuation in the life of adultery.  No excuses, no coverups, no divorces and artificial subsequent marriages.  Those are only for the person who has no sincerity of love or faith whatsoever in God.

Social Bond

Shoring up the social bond means taking a stand -- letting people around you know what you believe about the covenant of marriage.

The main reason marriages fall apart is because you and I can go long without taking a stand. People take a stand against marriage.  Why don’t you take a stand for marriage today?

Take this matter seriously.  Your courage could save a little child’s family.  Just wearing a button, a shirt, using a bumper sticker, having a clock on your wall calling people to honor vows could make a difference.

Do it as though to save your own family. After all, the Bible tells us to do unto others as we would have them do unto us.  If your spouse were considering leaving you, wouldn’t you want to see ads and bumper stickers and shirts around your home challenging people to stay true?  I would.

Legal Bond

Fight to see the law changed by going to this site and signing this petition to protect the right to a legitimately binding marriage covenant.